God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference – the Serenity Prayer
When I mentioned in the last post that every man you meet is superior at something. I meant it. The scratchy side of that point is that he is also inferior at something. For Christian, one of the most frequently used verse is “I can do all things…” I agree wholly but that doesn’t mean we should be doing everything and wear ourselves out. A man who consumes himself with doing everything will master nothing. And expecting your man to do everything and be everything is pushing it too far.
I am terrible at some things; very terrible I mean. But God knows I am very good at many things too. Women need to know that their men are not omnipotent and omniscient. He comes to you with weaknesses and he comes with bundles of it. There are things that you will never find me thriving at and if there were a scale of one to ten, I will fall at 3 or less. I plan on going to a dance class just for my wedding. I am terrible at cooking (ok I think I am improving but don’t expect me to dazzle you in that department). I am atrocious with mathematics and everything around it. Also, if you want to plan everything and have it written in black and white, please don’t count on me. When I met my fiancée (who is proficient in planning having trained as an event planner), this was obviously frustrating to her. I see the frustration in her eyes and I know she wonders how I ever get things done (and I do) without planning. That’s a weakness I carry and although I am working on that, I cannot guarantee success all the time.
This is important to note. Men are good at what they are good at and awful at what they are bad at. It has something to do with our gender I guess. We bother ourselves with what we can do and leave the rest to women. Lol. But seriously, that is why some men won’t learn how to cook or fix a diaper because until now, they think it’s a woman’s job.
THERE IS A CHILD IN EVERY MAN
Men are like children sometimes. They can be needy, unkempt, wimp and unaware as a 2 year old. Every woman must make peace with this truth or will be consistently disappointed. For most women, what a man stands for is perfection, strength and authority. He can be all of these most of the time but I doubt if there is a man who exhibits all of this traits all of the time. Don’t disrespect them in those moments when they don’t act as the wonderful prince in shining armor you have fantasized about. Most times a decent, honest conversation works miracles than resolving to nagging or being his mother.
Cheers.
Please Come back for part IV.
