TO LOVE A MAN...

To love a man…

The first thing you must understand

There is no easy way to love a man

You’ve got to figure him out, learn what he’s about,

And know he’s someone you cant live without

Then kill him with kindness, shower with sweetness

But never let him mistake your kindness for weakness

It’s hard for him to give himself to you;

So be appreciative of the little things he tries to do.

Let him know he can confide in you,

And he wont have things to hide from you

Be supportive, be his friend and not his foe

When he makes mistake, don’t say, “I told you so”.

Be understanding, not demanding, let him unwind

He faces a world of rain, so be his sunshine

Don’t get too cozy in the comfort zone

You will take him for granted and end up alone

If you don’t give him what he needs everyday,

I guarantee that someday, he will stray

Remember to be sexy, without a doubt

He wants to be proud when he takes you out

Don’t let yourself go, don’t forget about you

Love yourself and he will love you too

Keep love new, go the extra mile

Keep finding a way to make him smile

When you love him, love him all the way down

Don’t be afraid to explore him pound for pound

Take care of your man, he will take care of you

Think of him always and in all you do.

- unknown

PITY PARTY – A PARTY THAT CELEBRATES FAILURE

A friend woke me up in the early hours of this morning and the moment I picked the phone, I perceived he was crying or had had a bath of tears through the night. He needed to talk to someone and thinks I am that person. It’s the usual “why me” that all of us have uttered in our moments of frustration. As I wrote yesterday, this is the time for those utterances. I tried to say a word or two to help and I hope he feels good as he claimed. I began writing this article just after then and I hope it makes sense to you.

Self-pity in my words means PITY FOR ONESELF, which includes wishing and crying over this or that privilege you never had. Or imagining how beautiful life would have been if you had utilized yesterday’s opportunities. Most often, because you don’t already have the things you had wished for, you conclude that you’re worthless. This habit does not point forward neither lead to fulfillment.

John Mason wrote, “There are three enemies of personal peace. Regret over yesterday’s mistakes, anxiety over tomorrows blessings and ingratitude for today’s blessings.” A person who pities himself possesses all of these because he cries over the things he never got yesterday and what he would have become today if his parents were rich. He fears that tomorrow would be worse and difficult. And he’s so busy with what others have that he often fails to see what he’s blessed with. He continually blames God, friend and family for his inadequacies.

Self-pity is the climate that breeds regret, pains and stagnancy. We can never move forward under the weight of pity party because each time we want to take a step ahead, we are discouraged again with the thought of failure and impossibilities as a result of our “inadequacies” or failed encounters. In the words of Ronald Hutchcraft, “a pity party celebrates every physical ailment, every difficulty and every need.” Their culture demands they take a pause and cry over challenges, which normally should not keep them down.

Take a second look around you. You will see a lot of people carrying mental heavy weight accumulated from yesterday’s ordeal. Many more have concluded that wealth and happiness are belong to a selected few who God has blessed. This is untrue. God’s blessings belong to everyone of us and those who do not have it today will have it at God’s appointed time. We have to learn to trust God in all seasons of our lives.

God bless you.

IT IS THE TIME OF THE YEAR AGAIN...

I post this today because it is time of the year when people count their blessings and losses. This is the time of the year when people celebrate but many more despair. Yes dear, now is the time when it dawns on you that another year is gone and you are not married, you are not back in business, you have not bought the house or car, all your wishes for 2009 are unrealized. Even though you have some form of successes in 2009, this is the time when the “bigger” unrealized dreams overshadow the realized ones.

To all of us living till date, there is hope. God’s word affirms, “a living dog is better than a dead lion.” The portion of the bible I read yesterday seems to speak to me. “God determines your steps, why worry over what he’s going to do next?” Now is the time to live and trust God for better days ahead. He never fails and He’s always on point. I agree, He seems always late but His time is perfect for us. Trust me on this. Anything God controls, He preserves and nourishes. Enjoy this my friend.

A boy once said to God, “You know what I want when I grow up.” He then proceeded to give God his list: to live in a big house, to marry a tall blue-eyed woman; to have three sons - one will be a senator, one a scientist, and one a quarterback. He also wanted to be a mountain climber and drive a red Ferrari. As it turned out, the boy hurt his knees one day, while playing football. He could no longer climb trees talk more of mountains. He ended up marrying a beautiful and kind woman who was short with brown eyes, instead of blue eyes. Because of his business, he lived in an apartment in the city and usually rode the subway instead of a big house. He had three lovely daughters instead of sons and they adopted a male fluffy cat! One daughter became a nurse, one an artist and the third, a music teacher. One morning the boy woke and remembered his boyhood dreams. He became extremely depressed. Heartbroken, he cried out to God: “Remember when I was a boy, I told you all the things I wanted, why didn't you give me all those things?” “I could have” replied God, “but I wanted to make you happy. Some of those things you asked for could have led you to an early grave.”

Stories like this remind you of the old saying “Man proposes but God opposes.” It’s not like he opposes everything you WANT; he only makes sure that you have what you NEED. Since he is all-knowing and he knows the end from the beginning, he is always committed to giving to you what will make you happy. He said, “my thought towards you are the thought of good not of evil to bring you an expected end.”

I have seen how people stopped serving God because what they fasted and prayed for never came to pass. This reveals where their heart is - the product instead of the producer. If your heart is on God, you will trust Him to give you what you really need. Do you know it doesn’t cost God anything to make you a billion dollars richer if that’s what will make you happy? You mean more to Him than silver or gold. If anything will steal your peace, He holds it back till you can manage it.

Believe in God and trust Him to make the best use of your life by putting all your worries on Him. He knows what is best for you. If your dreams don’t come to pass this year, he knows why and it’s always for your good. Cheers

Rejoice in the Lord. I will say it again, REJOICE.


God bless you. see you soon