Hey dear,
Yesterday I began to write an article on friendship but couldn’t finish because I had issues I was dealing with. In the past few days, the true meaning of friendship began to stare at me in the face. So I decided to write what I think about friendship and I was glad when my Deana thought that topic is important and had wanted to tell me to write on it. Guess I am on course. I am putting final touches to the article and it will be my next post. Now I know what friendship is after mouth-gaping disappointment and I will share with you soon.
I am starting today’s post quite unusually. Check out this joke. Deana sent it to me this morning and I fell off my bed laughing. If this happens to me, I dunno what I would do. Lol. You will like it.
JOKE OF THE DAY
I was barely sitting down when I heard a voice from the other stall saying:
'Hi, how are you?'
I'm not the type to start a conversation in the restroom but I don't know what got into me,
So I answered, somewhat embarrassed,
'Doin' just fine!'
And the other person says:
'So what are you up to?'
What kind of question is that?
At that point, I'm thinking this is too bizarre, so I say:
'Uhhh, I'm like you, just traveling!'
At this point I am just trying to get out as fast as I can when I hear another question.
'Can I come over?'
Ok, this question is just too weird for me but I figured,
I could just be polite and end the conversation.
I tell them
'No........I'm a little busy right now!!!'
Then I hear the person say nervously...
'Listen, I'll have to call you back.
There's an idiot in the other stall who keeps answering all my questions!
YOUR LIFE BEGAN BEFORE YOU TURNED SIX YEARS
Some years ago, Luther Vandross (My favorite male singer), before his demise gave the world a song that eventually got an award for “All Time Best.” The title of the song in its simplicity carries an outstanding weight. “Dance with My Father” Got my attention the first time I listened to it on Morning Grill on FRCN/FM 96.1 Supreme. In the song, Luther expresses the amazing relationship he had with his father. Even when he offends mum, his father’s bosom was where he ran to for protection. Though it’s his mum who longs for a dance with her departed husband yet, it gives me a clue to the true personality of the father.
He is the loving and available father and husband. Little wonder he’s missed long after death snatched him from them. That kind of relationship with a family gives a proper perspective of life to children since that's their first lecture point. If the teachers are bad, children grow to hate life. This could be the reason why most humans are suffering today-a bad orientation about life at the most delicate moments of their lives. Little wonder that song made a hit because most people suffer from this. I believe that an adult’s perspective about life is largely determined by his relationship with parents.
Many ladies, if they had a caring father often desire to have a husband as sweet as their father. Countless surveys show that a lady will have a healthy relationship with the opposite sex if her father spent time with her as a growing girl. The reverse is the case for a girl who has an unavailable and over-critical dad. He creates natural fear or hatred within his daughter for the opposite sex. Matters are worse when she's sexually abused by the one she called dad or if he beats mum up. Would you blame her if she thinks that men are animals?
Ladies are not the only ones who suffer from this problem. A young man will grow up to respect ladies if mum listens and loves dad, when angry words between parents are not heard outside the bedroom. What happens if mummy insults dad consistently? The male child concludes that women are threats to the authority of the male gender and she must be dealt with to come under subjection. I hate to mention this but mothers who commit adultery are actually destroying the future families of their children because these male children would grow not to trust ladies.
In a recent survey I conducted, I actually trace many parents’ problems re-occuring in the lives of their children when married or in relationships. The answer is obvious. At age 6, the life of a person is set. His immediate environment forms his behaviors and characters. Anything added is a building on the foundation laid before he turned six years. It is therefore no more a surprise to see an adult male behaving like his dad or mum in a similar situation.
I hold my blame. Nevertheless, many parents have destroyed the beautiful life of their children should have had by foolish behaviours in their children’s growing days. In a child’s innocent years, the lesson he/she learns about life usually becomes a standard. To then isolate him/her from this normal proceeding of event created by parents becomes a difficult process for counselors - it takes only his own decision and time. Unfortunately, many people lived life from their parents’ angle without truly finding their true identity. Many of us are suffering from this but we can break loose from henceforth and live our lives.
Is it really possible to break loose from a lifestyle formed by our parents for many years? Yes a million times. If your parents have made you to see life negatively, you can choose to see it positively. If your parents never said good things about you as a baby and you have lived with a poor self-worth all the days of your life, you can take steps to reconstructing a healthier self-worth for yourself like I did. Have you been abused by parents in your early years? You can be useful again if you choose to. Have your parents abandoned you as a baby and opened you to people who took advantage of your vulnerability and introduced you to a lot of vain stuffs? It's a lie to think you are a mistake. You can make a difference too.
I concur that parents are our first teachers we meet on earth but thank God that the power to do what we want is in our hands. We cannot allow our lives to waste away because of the mistakes or carelessness of our parents. Now that we are adults, let's choose the direction of our lives. How do you achieve this?
1. Accept that your perspective is faulty
2. List the lifestyle you admire and wish to begin
3. Believe that you can achieve it
4. Make a decision to do it
5. Do it immediately if you have the opportunity
6. If you fall after trying to achieve this, get up and try again because we learn to walk by falling.
Although it has been proven by psychologist that adults are greatly influenced by their childhood conditioning, yet, God has given us the power to live above our past. So honey, if you don’t do anything about your habits now, you the blame is yours. Be wise.
SNAKE WINE? I WONT TAKE THIS FOR A MILLION DOLLAR!
Snake wine is an alcoholic beverage that includes a whole venomous snake in the bottle. It originated in Vietnam and can be found around Southeast Asia. The snakes, preferably venomous ones, are usually not preserved for their meat. They are preserved to have the snake poison dissolved in the liquor. However, because snake venom is protein-based, they are unfolded and therefore inactivated due to the influence of the denaturing effects of ethanol.
A large venomous snake can be placed into a glass jar of rice wine, often with many smaller snakes, turtles, insects, or birds, and left to steep for many months. The wine is drunk as a restorative in small shots or cups
Body fluids of snake are mixed into wine and consumed immediately in the form of a shot. Snake blood wine is prepared by slicing a snake along its belly and draining its blood into a mixing vat with rice wine or grain alcohol. Snake bile wine is done through a similar method by using the contents of the gall bladder. Snake meat, liver, and skin can be prepared to accompany the drinks
It’s another day to reach out and put smiles on someone’s face because that’s one of the reasons we are still alive, to make the world better. Have a splendid day. holla. I'M OUT!
