10+ SNEAKY GUYS TRICKS A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER FALL FOR.

I was at the library a while ago and two well dressed, (in my initial assessment) smart women sat next to me. I was almost certain they are smart women until they opened their mouths. They were so loud with the description of their dirty linens in a public place meant for intellectual research that I had to move two tables away to be able to concentrate. Yet it seems that the farther I moved, the louder they became forcing me to do nothing else but listen to they dialogue. Yeah I know its bad mannerism to listen to other people’s conversation but it was right in my face and I couldn’t help it. The content of their discussion inspired this article. The sneaky things men do. I hope you like it.

1.  Excessive hugging to check out what you've got: he claims he's just a friend but can’t keep his hands away from you “private” areas. Tell him to go get married. He's sneaky.

2. The line, “sorry do I know you from somewhere?” We all know that It's an outdated line used by our granddads to pick a woman in the 20s. He’s probably done that to many women. Best answer – No I dunno ya, smile and click the ignore button.

3. Catch him checking out another gorgeous girl: he says “oh baby, checking her Louis Vuitton. Wanna get it for you on your birthday.” Do you believe that crap?

4.   He's got this girl he's close with: he claims she's just a friend. She cooks for him, does his laundry and calls him at weird hours. Then you saw her underwear and toothbrush in his bathroom. Your man stutters and says, “oh em em em… em baby it's not what you think. She got a stain while helping out in the kitchen.” It also affected her panties too?  And what is the lie about her toothbrush? What does he take you for?

5.  Doesn't want you to visit or wants a call before you come: He claims he loves you but has an excuse every time you wanna visit. Prefers taking you out and claims it's serene there. Where's more serene than home? You gotta call your man before you visit? Your dude's got skeletons. 

6. He answers lots of calls from women he claims are just friends. The weird thing is that he answers them in private. Wise up gurl. I bet he answers your call in private when he's with them too.

7. Still on call: his phone is on silent, switched off or he ignores calls when he’s with you. Sometimes he registers names with codes. Eg, IT, Ti, BM, G2, PC etc. You buy that crap? Bless sis.

8. You are at a party and he’s not holding you as usual. He doesn't even sit close to you. You got worried and attempt to be close to your fine dude. But he says “Baby, I’ve got slight headache.” Yet drinks and eats and even laughs with friends as usual. You believe him? Nah! He’s either checking out another babe or one of his girlfriends is close feet away.

9. Your name is Jennifer yet he unconsciously calls you by another name like Sandra, Titi, Magdalene, Dorcas. You think its normal or you dismiss it as a mistake. Wait a minute sugar!!! You are either dumb or nonchalant. His mother, sisters or anyone you know him with doesn’t go by that name. Who then is Sandra? Ask him next time he calls you another name. He’s spending time with another woman or you’re the other woman. I fear you are the other woman because out of the abundances of the mind the mouth speaks.

10. You saw a used condom in his jacket and he say gives a whole "kakameme" story about how his friend tuck it into jacket and forgot to retrieve it. What happened to his friends pocket that he cannot keep his things? be wise, he is damn sneaky.

11. Every time you go out and it's time to pay, that's when he strikes a conversation with a person across the table, goes to the bathroom or forgets his wallet. Are you kidding me? okay next time don't pay until he gets back and give him the bill. he's a sneaky freeloader

Gotta go. Feel free to comment on this post and add to this list of sneaky guys tricks if you have an experience with one or suggestion.

NOTE:

Next post I will continue our series of, 10 THINGS A MAN BRINGS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP PART VII.

Purest Love,

Collins Agboju

10 THINGS YOUR MAN BRINGS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP PART VI: HIS LIBIDO

A MAN IS HIS LIBIDO. Note that I wrote the previous sentence in capital letters? I mean to say read again and again until you understand the weight of those words. In this time of tsunami of sex (have you not noticed how sex’s been worshiped on TVs, radio, music, paintings, movies etc?); the one thing a woman should not sweep under the carpet is the power of sex on her man. The irony is that as women get into the mainstream of professionalism and independence; this is one issue they ignore the most. Could that be the reason why more men are unfaithful?

By personal analysis and observation, I have discovered that men are unfaithful for 3 strong reasons (add to the list if you want). All points are equally valid

1: MEN are sexually greedy beings: A man is turned on by what he sees. If what he sees is attractive, he likes it almost immediately and the next move is to chase and conquer. Self-control is a very vital quality of being a man. Men who are impoverished of this quality always get into trouble. More importantly so now than ever, men need to exhibit a degree of chastity and strength of will from all the sexiness around us. Contrary to some school of thought, there are men who are sexually disciplined.

2: MEN are sexually malnourished: When a man is starved; he is famished and when he is famished, he wants to eat. If his wife is too busy to have sex or has another excuse for tonight then the old saying of “when the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable” becomes a thought. The truth is if a woman starves her man, his colleague, house-helps, hookers, scantily dressed girls on the street and flirting lonely women will look attractive to him. On most occasions, a sexually satisfied man remains faithful. Like I always say, it’s rare to have a Bentley in your garage and be interested in Tata Nano (the world’s cheapest car selling for $2,500 according to Forbes. It is not even available in the United States; they are barred from entry in their current conditions, because they don't meet U.S. safety and emissions standards.).

3: MEN are sexually bored: Men get bored easily and when they do, they search for something more satisfying. That’s the secret of civilization and invention. When men got tired of sleeping on the floor, they invented the bed. Have you ever wondered why men go to whores and strippers for pleasure? Here is an answer while you are still thinking of one: These women are trained to be versatile and bring men great pleasure. They may not be good at been wives and supporting men, but they are grand in pleasure making.

Are you a wife? One more thing to add to your quality as a wife is good sex. Ask him for his fantasies and satisfy them passionately. Explore new zones together and enjoy yourself while bringing him pleasure. Here are some tips: Make love outside the regular places (no law states that sex should be exclusively reserved for the bedroom). Seduce him in the car while in the park in the dark (like teenagers) and recline the seats to make love, walk into him the bathroom and “do” him, welcome him at the door naked, undress him in the kitchen and pleasure him. That’s what the “other woman” does to him enthusiastically and that’s why he keeps going there. Take the lead sometimes and dazzle him. One more advice, men know when you fake it. Be actively involved and you will enjoy it.

DON’T FORGET THIS:

1: A man’s libido can affect his brain and his brain can affect his libido: Google libido and brain if you have a minute. Take time to read the many researches about the connection between the brain and libido. It’s astonishing how they are both connected. Whichever comes first, either the brain affecting libido or libido affecting his brain, one thing is certain, the brain of a man is connected to his sex urge. Here is my point: if the brain functions as the primary receiver, organizer and distributor of information for the body, then sex can make a man perform wonderfully and can also make him perform woefully. If you are truly interested in his performance, this is important. Don’t you think?

2: A man’s libido can affect his ego: Nothing punctures a man’s ego than sexual rejection and worse if you ridicule his performance behind closed doors. His ability to perform veritably as a macho in bed, making his sexual partner feeling heavenly and hearing her express her satisfaction inflates his male ego remarkably. Well the absence or your reluctance to “go down” with him conveys a non-verbal message that he is weak bed and that’s why you are reluctant. A man is ready to try everything to avoid such an embarrassment. But after everything’s done and you are still unenthusiastic, you have unconsciously watered down his performance. I bet you don’t want to have a man with a depleted ego. A man without ego has lost a vital part of his being; he’s lost his drive, energy and the effrontery to forge ahead.

3. A man’s libido can affect how he treats you and the tranquility in the home: a couple approached a pastor about their incessant disagreements. Having gone through series of session with him without improvement, the pastor asked, “when last did you have sex?” they chorused in synchronization “about a year ago”. The pastor closed the session immediately and told them to make it happen tonight. They did and it changed everything. A week later they returned to the pastor with words of appreciation. In the man’s words, “pastor you are a miracle worker”. A sexually starved man does two things. He either cheats or has a thin skin and disagrees with you at every opportunity he’s got. This may explain why you are constantly in the mud with him.

4: A man’s libido can enhances creativity & productivity: A sexually satisfied man is mentally healthy and performs better professionally than a starved man. Don’t ask questions or disagree, just satisfy him and observe the difference.

5: A man’s libido can affect him spiritually: But for lust of the eyes and unfaithfulness many men would be great guys and spiritually sound. A satisfied man is a happy man. Wouldn’t you be interested in making that happen if that’s all you need to do?

PS:

Please note that this article is not a sexist one and I do not intend to communicate that sex answers all questions in your marriage. Also, it is far from the intention of this article to justify unfaithfulness or saddle women with the responsibility of initiating copulation. It is only intended to reveal one more thing a man brings into your relationship and offer one more suggestion for a woman to have a great union. Also, this particular article is intended for married couples as the author does not endorse premarital sex.