Sunday, February 6, 2011

92% OF YOUR FEARS WILL NEVER HAPPEN

We take risks everyday though we refer to most of them as events of our lives. Driving your car is a risky decision because you heard of someone who drove his SUV yesterday and perished in it. If you don’t have a car, walking is risky too. Did you see in the news how someone was killed while crossing the road? Investing your money in stocks, bonds, and real estate is risky, very risky. Those who have lost money on Wall Street and Main Street in the past year are better at telling this story. Women take risks to get pregnant and watch the babies grow; what if the children die at birth, or as infants? In everything we do, from waking up in the morning, drinking a coup of tea, going to work, and to sleeping at night, certain levels of risks are involved. Yet, these risks are taken because we believe they are part of living. Howbeit those who don't do these things are referred to as living corpse.


No matter the risk we take daily; serious or not, every one of us accommodates certain fears. The degree of those fears is determined by temperament, personality type, beliefs, and often childhood conditioning. For instance, I was raised in a decent family where risks are too risky, and for the love of life, we had to settle for what was available. A lot of us have limits set in place (by us or by family) to restrict us from stretching beyond boarders. I have made huge mistakes by taking some risks, but I am better for it. What you fear is stronger than you, and that means you are a slave to your fears until you decide to break loose. Little wonder those who are timid, afraid to stretch, rarely succeed.

Life is built on the foundation of venturing and contending. God, in the beginning, ventured to create this world amidst difficult challenges as it is written;

“…and the world was without form
and void and darkness
was upon the face of the deep.
And God Said let there be light…”

God wasn’t afraid of the darkness and the void he encountered while attempting to create this world – He ventured. If you care to add, He took the risk; you and I are the product of that risk. I dare say those who fear to take risks will always be at the mercy of those who do. Look through your window. I will tell you what you stand to see - the wide gap between those who are ready to take risk and the timid. Fear is the greatest unmaking of losers – the fear of “what if”. This alibi has kept me downtrodden for ages. The good news is that 92% of our fears will never happen.

Here is the result of my research:

* Roughly 40% of what we fear/worry about will never happen
* 30% of what we fear/worry about has already happened
* 23% of our fear/worry is about unfounded things that are still assumptions
* Totally, 92% of things that we fear/worry about will never on earth come to pass
* Only 8% is possible to occur and if it happens, God has given us strength to handle it.
Why then do you fear to venture?

The most prominent fear of this age is the fear to venture because of failed experiences in our past. This fear abounds in nearly every heart since we all have encountered one form of disappointment or another in our lives. I was a victim of many fears, but this fear’s huge and sadly, it spread to everything I do, eating me up like cancer. Many of us will dare stare the devil in the face or go into the proverbial Nigeria's evil forest (I don’t know if it really exists) but cannot risk falling in LOVE again. Possibly you keep asking, “Why should I fall in love when I stand the chance of heartbreak?” “Why travel through the rigors of that part when men are jerks and women are loose?” Why give someone my love when I am not sure if it’s not going to be trampled on?” Many and many more questions might ring in your head, but the truth remains that those who fear failure have failed already, because the hands of the timid attract failure.

I speak also to people who have packed up businesses and ideas because it didn’t work the first time. In the making of an incandescent lamp, Thomas Edison failed about 10,000 times and yet he said, “I didn’t fail 10, 000 time. I successfully eliminated 10,000 errors and combination that couldn’t work.” Success responds to persistence. Take the risk again and who knows, this could be the time that the tide will turn. Shalom.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

100 THINGS YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT COLYNS AGBOJU

Every 10th of November (My birthday), I answer random questions about me. Of course no “spotlight” on me yet but I think its right to set the record straight here every year for those who follow me on this blog and also my friends around the world. These past months I have lived virtually on the road and in hotels with little time to do much thinking and writing. And so, I am using this style. I like it because it keeps my answers brief and brings you back to me for more. Lol. These are hundred questions I perceive you want to know about me. Feel free to ask anything you want. Today, you have a discount for every question asked. Rotfl.

This piece is intended to appreciate every one of you who have loved me unconditionally and truly; flaws and strengths. And to all of you who visit my blog and say a word or two to encourage me. It’s also important to appreciate those of you who critique me. But for you, I would have grown lazy. Thank you all. Enjoy this.

100 RANDOM THINGS ABOUT COLYNS AGBOJU

1. Last drink- coke

2. Last phone call- my dad

3. Last text message- I am out of the country so can’t receive text messages. I will let you know when I get home.

4. Last song you listened to – Endless Love – Luther Vandross & Mariah Carey

5. Last time you cried – tonight.


HAVE YOU EVER:

6. Dated someone twice - Nope

7. Been cheated on- I don’t know! I have never caught anyone in lies

8. Kissed someone and regretted it- nope

10. Been depressed – Yes

11. Been drunk and threw up – no


LIST THREE FAVOURITE COLOURS:

12. Blue

13. Red

14. Gold


IN THE LAST YEAR HAVE YOU:

15. Made new friends? Yes - alot

16. Fallen out of love? - Nope.

17. Laughed until you cried? Yeah it's fun. You should try it too

18. Met someone who changed you? Yeah - Everyone i have met in life

19. Found out who your true friends were? I do few friends - guess they are true

20. Found out someone was talking about you? Yeah. If nobody talks about you, then you’re nobody

21. Kissed anyone on your friends list on fb? Yes. Ok stop there!!!

22. How many people on your friends list on Facebook do you know in real life?- counting....will tell you when I am done.

23. How many kids do you want to have? - 2 - a boy and a girl (maybe 3. still consulting. lol)

24. Do you have any pets? Yes. I am my own pet

25. Do you want to change your name?- Nah! COLLINS is so sweet buh Methuselah is cool too. lol

26. What did you do for your last birthday?- worked all day and saw Michael Jackson’s "This Is It” @ Silver Bird Galleria at night.

27. What time did you wake up today? – I have not even slept yet

28. What were you doing at midnight last night? - talking with my fiancé

29. Name something you cannot wait for – To be married and have a baby

30. Last time you saw your father- a week ago. See!!! You are a sexist. Why didn’t you ask about mom mom? lol

31. What is the one thing you wish you could change about your life? - I am fearfully & wonderfully made

32. What are you listening to right now? – You.

33. Have you ever spoken to someone named Tom? Why Tom?

34. What's getting on your nerves right now? - This list of questions. lol

35. Most visited web page? Facebook.com

36. What's your real name? Collins Oluniyi Osebimega Abiodun Agboju

37. Nicknames- Colyns

38. Relationship status- Engaged

39. Zodiac sign- Scorpion

40. Male, female or transgendered- tell me

41. Infant school – My mom's arms

42. Junior school– Army Children Primary School

43. High school- Government Secondary School, Kakuri

44. Hair colour- Scanty Black. Lol.

45. Long or short- what???

46. Height- 6ft plus.

47. Do you have a crush on someone? Yeah on you

48. What do you like about yourself? - I love my Spirit, soul & body

49. Piercings- Nope

50. Tattoos – Nope

51. Righty or lefty - Righty


FIRSTS:

52. First surgery- None

53. First piercing- None

54. First bestfriend- My mom

56. First kiss - I don’t kiss n tell.

57. First concert- Are you kidding me?

58. First crush- that’s when I was 2 years old. Lol.



RIGHT NOW:

59. Eating- ice-cream

60. Drinking- nothing

61. I'm about to- sleep

62. Listening to- why do you keep asking me this?

63. Waiting for- a miracle


YOUR FUTURE:

64. Want kids? - Passionately

65. Get married?- Definitely!

66. Careers in mind? Counseling & Motion Picture Director.


WHICH IS BETTER ON THE OPPOSITE SEX:

67. Lips or eyes? Eyes

68. Hugs or kisses? Both

69. Shorter or taller? Anything but dwarf. my height can compensate

70. Older or younger? Does it really matter?

71. Romantic or spontaneous? Both

72. Nice stomach or nice arms? Nice stomach

73. Sensitive or loud? Sensitive

74. Hook up or relationship? Relationship.

75. Trouble maker or hesitant? None


HAVE YOU EVER:

76. Shoplifted? – You expect me to tell u that and have the police after me huh? lol

77. Drank hard liquor? - Nope

78. Lost glasses/ contacts? - Yeah

79. Sex in a public place? - No

80. Broken someone's heart?- Negative. But you never can tell if someone thought you did.

81. Had your heart broken? - Yep. Who hasn’t?

82. Been arrested? - No

83. Turned someone down? - I aint greedy

84. Cried when someone died? - Yeah. Don’t you?

85. Liked a friend that is a guy/girl? - Of course.


DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

86. Yourself? - Yes

87. Miracles? - Yes

88. Love at first sight? I don’t know about love at first sight but I can like someone at first sight

89. Heaven? - My home

90. Santa Clause? Waste of time

91. Kiss on the first date? - I put a knife to my throat

92. Angels? - I am an angel


ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:

93. Is there one person you want to be with right now? I am now

94. Had more than one bf/gf at one time? - Nope. I don’t do double-‘tis trouble

95. Did you sing today? Yup. Singing right now

96. Any regrets? – Nope!!! But I have done stuffs I am not proud of

97. If you could go back in time how far would you go? Now

98. If you could pick a day from last year and relive it what day would it be? – 09/06/2010

99. Are you afraid of falling in love? - Nope.

100. Posting this as 100 truths?- lemme check...

happy birthday to me.