One of the most amazing inventions of all time is TIME.

It’s Sunday morning and I am lying on the bed waiting for church time to get dressed and go worship my God. Then my eyes stayed on the clock on my bedroom wall. Little by little at the sound of every second, a minute of the 24 hours allocated to me today by God quietly disappeared. And yet still staring at the busy clock and reminiscing, 15 more minutes disappeared into the thin air. The cliché “how time flies!” at that moment began to make sense having heard it over a million times and being a user. I quickly jumped off my bed and switched on my computer and even that took another 5 minutes or so. Wow! Time is making more sense to me now and thoughts began to cloud my mind.

This is not a lecture and I am not an “all day for work Jack” but I have to say this. There are 1,440 minutes in a day and what is disappointing to me is that I have just lost about 30 of those minutes just lazing around after sleeping for 6 hours (360 minutes) already. If you put it together, I have nearly lost my first 440 minutes. And yes I still have 1000 more minutes to do something tangible and make a reasonable donation to others and my family but if I don't watch it, they will all be gone and that is how Methuselah grew old and that is how many people took their dreams to the grave. My mind for a minute wandered on minutes I have lost ignorantly and how many minutes are getting lost around the world as I write this piece. Those minutes if used wisely will make a great impact on the world.

Let me ask quickly, what are you doing right now as you read through this post and what have you planned to do thereafter? Are they going to add to your life in the long run or subtract from it? When you look back 10 years from now, will you be proud of your actions today? Take time to reflect my friend. I have done a lot of that already myself.

So teach us to number our days, that we may acquire a wise heart (Psalm 90:12 Darby Bible Translation)

USE THE NEXT SECOND NOT MINUTE

If you want your life to count don't put your attention on the MINUTES or even the HOURS but on the SECONDS. Your clock or watch is programmed in a way that puts emphasis more on the hours, less on the minutes and lesser on the seconds. Have you noticed that more of our watches and clocks do not have the second’s arrow anymore? Take a look at yours. In an attempt to make the watch more beautiful manufacturers are taking away the most important quality of time. Little wonder people are trying to catch up these days. We are deceived into counting our lives by the hours and the minutes when what matters most are the seconds. Every wise person knows that if we can manage little, WE HAVE CONTROLLED BIG. Take note I didn't use “we will control big”. The truth is that if we can manage the small, the big falls into place without much ado. We are struggling with time because we disrespect small and intend to control big. That’s stupid.

As I stare at the clock on my wall and hear the sound it makes at the strike of every second (sometimes it can be annoying), I am reminded that life is lived by the seconds. Can you account for yours?

Make every second of your everyday count and what is more important is to make someone's life better with it. I hope this few minutes I put into writing this piece means something to someone. Begin to pursue your dreams and DO what you should do NOW and do something else later.

My wife just made her minute count by making me a cup of tea. Thank you babe.

God bless you all.

PS: I have changed the name of my blog to www.colynsagboju.blogspot.com. If you can, please change your bookmarks. Thank you.

10 THINGS YOUR MAN BRINGS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP PART X: GOOD

I asked women on one of my Social Network pages what they would call men when they are angry. Check the list and let me know if you have heard them or even used those words before.

~ Jerk

~ Retard

~ SOB

~ Cross to Carry

~ Piece of sh$t

~ An abortion gone bad

~ A$$hole

~ Chauvinistic bastards

~ Dog

~ Cheater

~ worthless

~ D$ckhead

~ The stone in my shoe

~ Thorn in my side

~ JACKA$S

~ Douchebag

~ Loser

~ Dictator

~ Sh$t-head

~ Butt-head

~ Coward

I understand some men could make you so angry that they seem to fit one or all the adjectives above.  As a matter of fact, fewer women are calling their men endearing names these days. And no, I am not writing this article to increase the number or support your claims. Yes, I will not be defending men either even though I am one?

THERE IS GOOD IN HIM!!!

You are probably rolling your eyes and wondering if I have gone out of my mind. Please don't argue, just read on. I don't blame you considering how he's “abused” you in many way and for many days. Yeah you have lost hope of experiencing any iota of affection from him. Maybe you have decided to file for divorce or end the “damn” thing between you. I will not use the cliché “hold on” because many people must have used those words in comforting you and now it sounds suicidal. I will simply suggest another less traveled path.

Take a minute and picture when you first met. Remember the endearing names you called him? He was the sweetest man alive and you will stay up late nights talking with him. When your phone rings, you often wished it's him calling. He was cool, nice and treats you like a queen. You even thanked God for blessing you with such a gentleman and you never overlook the opportunity show him off to your friends. In those days, you could write a hundred poems about your man in few minutes. HE WAS NO DOUBT THE BEST AT THE TIME. The question is what has gone wrong? 

TRACING BACK TO THE GOOD OLD DAYS.

...Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen,

And repent, and do the first works…

Revelation 2:1-5

Frankly, someone has changed, which has in turn has affected the beautiful relationship you had going. That someone may be YOU. Yes you. I am not referring to any specific gender but YOU reading this article. It's okay to point fingers qt your partner as the reason why everything’s gone bad but it is noble to start by taking responsibility of your share of blame. Is that hard? Taking responsibility doesn't mean it's entirely your fault or that you are wrong. It just means you are bold enough to accept that you are a party in the events that contributed to the consistent breakdown of your relationship. It's about time to stop fighting, hold yourself accountable and start asking honest, selfless questions that will lead to the return of peace in your relationship. Questions like:

~ When did my partner start acting weird and why?

~ What was I doing when the going was good and if I had done more, would things have been different?

~ What does my partner REALLY need from me and are they getting it?

~ What are we always fighting about and why?

~ How selfish have I been to my partner? (It’s easier to pat yourself on the back for been the perfect partner but I bet YOU ARE NOT!)

~ What is my partner always complaining about and how can I swallow my pride to provide it?

~ What do I have to GIVE up to KEEP this relationship and am I willing to?

~ What are my expectations and are they too soon, impractical and selfish?

~ Am I meeting my partner's expectations or am I arguing about my right to hold them back?

The truth is that the most catastrophic inferno in history began with a tiny fire. And for you, finding the cause of the disaster in your relationship is the first step towards restoration. Asking honest questions like those above and objectively answering them push your whole being into an action mode. It opens your eyes to the plight of your partner and how badly you have treated them. For a moment your selfishness and pride will become obvious to you and all the cry about been maltreated will roll away.

REPENT BABY:

Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen,

And REPENT, and do the first works… Revelation 2:1-5

It’s hard to point the accusing fingers at yourself especially if you are used to pointing fingers at others for your misfortune and for some, it's entirely an impossible step. But I am advising that you find that part of you and nail yourself real hard for being part of the problem. If you can find yourself successful at sharing the blame with your partner for a bad job in the relationship, you are closer to salvation. If you can find your share of failures in the relationship, it means you have been wrong in a way and your partner was right in a way. Don't hesitate to go your partner and apologize. Don't argue that your partner had been bad or assume they will take you for granted. JUST APOLOGIZE!!! It will need a lot of humility and it may not be acknowledged immediately but one thing is sure, you are not a fool for seeing your own wrong and saying I am sorry. In the long run, you will benefit immensely from such action.

“I am sorry” is the greatest relational healing prescription there is: These words are more effective if you don't attach a sermon to it. Nevertheless, if you are tempted to add something, please use endearing words like “you mean so much to me than been right or wrong.”

GIVE AND IT SHALL BE GIVEN UNTO YOU…

Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen,

And repent, AND DO THE FIRST WORKS… Revelation 2:1-5

What do you want from your partner? Find a piece of paper and list them in order of preference with what you want most at the top of the sheet. Decide today to give what you desire of your partner and don't hold back anything. If you want to be treated nicely, BE NICE. If you want understanding, UNDERSTAND. If you want to be happy, MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY. Make that decision. Although it might not flow back to you immediately, it will come back to you eventually in good measure, pressed down, shaking together and running over. Great blessings come to those who give and give without expecting any immediate compensation. Those people have piled up so many blessings in the supernatural that when they start pouring down, there is no ending. Few months from now I bet you will look back and ask, how did I manage to get the best spouse in the world?

Finally, it's time to start doing what you did in the good old days. Your love is not dead; it's your feeling that has been hurt. Even if it were dead, dry bones can live again. Pray for your partner; prophesy peace on your relationship and watch God move in miraculous ways.

HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE!!!