ADJUST OR DONT FALL IN LOVE + MY PERSPECTIVE OF THE SELF-OPINIONATED + JOKES

For the first time in my blogging life, I am totally incapable of writing the introduction of this post and yet I must post today. My mind is a little bit clouded with issues. I will be fine though. For the first time on this blog, I devised a pictorial introduction and hope to follow up with a few words thereafter. Here is the picture

For me, this picture is one of the closest reasons why millions of people fall in and out of love daily. Yes, people are so selfish they oftentimes bring their whole selves into relationships and then again become totally unwilling to let go habits their partners consider repulsive. The funny thing is that, they are so selfish to expect their partners to adjust for them while they remain stiff. Love is a journey where partners meet at the middle. Honestly, I don’t have problems adjusting habits my partner is not comfortable with but I will feel better if she does the same for me too. When one person is unwilling to adjust and yet expecting the other to, heartbreak results. In the same vein, the result is the same if both parties are just unwilling to adjust. If we claim to love someone, we should be willing to adjust. Oftentimes, we are the creator of our own hurts. I hope to write a full note in this line soon.

I hope you will enjoy my post today.

MY PERSPECTIVE OF THE SELF OPINIONATED. Excerpt of my book. The Big Me.

I have been humbled severally especially in my younger years when my ego was at top speed and unbroken. I would argue my point thinking it’s the best until someone with a better idea about the issue step into room and embarrass me. Those embarrassments, though hard to accept in the heat of arguments, taught me immense lessons and one of the lessons is: no matter the knowledge I have obtained through great studies, I don’t really know enough. Hence pushing and fighting, trying to show how much I know is really unnecessary. If you will permit me to use King James Version of the Bible, such actions bringeth innumerable embarrassments and leadeth to your doom.

Knowledge is like the several parts of a garment- the hand; the collar and shoulder parts all make up a complete garment. Each one of us holds just a portion of that garment. Some people hold the shoulder parts, others the hand and another set, the collar - none of these sets are inconsequential in our lives because without them the garment is incomplete. So, to shut others down in way to prove your wealth of knowledge is not only injustice but also denying yourself the joy of learning from others. These people could be the most despised, most starved of education, most impoverished or the least brilliant in the society yet they hold a part of knowledge that your educational qualification or years of studies cannot provide for you. Apostle Paul declares in the Holy Bible,

“we KNOW in PARTS and prophesy in parts.”

I am compelled to share one of my stories here to paint the picture better. While I was studying Mass Communication in the University of Jos, Nigeria, some years ago, I had an argument with my younger brother – the last one, who at that point was in his Junior Secondary. Academically, the difference was incomparable but my brother knew something that I didn’t know. Sometimes education is not a yardstick to measure knowledge because education is not meant to make us know everything but to assist us to be a little bit familiar with more knowledge. Hence, the more we advance in education, the better we know but we cannot know all there is. Someone far lower in education may amaze us with something we never had the idea about.

In our argument, my younger brother said, “to naturalize is to make somebody from another country a citizen of a specified country.” To show how much I know, I quickly disagreed and I corrected him in public that ‘Nationalize’ is the right word to use. He disagreed vehemently and I felt insulted by this “common” Junior Secondary Student. I argued but he insisted that he was right and because I wanted to be regarded more highly by the people around and especially by this obstinate younger brother, I suggested we check the dictionary thinking I’d be justified. Unfortunately, after due consultation with my dictionary, he was right and I was wrong. You can guess what happened next. In the highest proportion, I earned myself mockery in my bid to show my knowledge bank.

If you are sincere with yourself, you will realize that most times when you argue you don’t have sufficient knowledge on what you argue about. You just want to push your ego forward as a knowledgeable chap to earn respect or improve your self-esteem. If you aint sure of what you argue about why condemn someone else’s opinion? It was Theodore Roosevelt who once said that if he could be right 75% of the time, he would reach the highest measure of his expectation. If this is the highest rating that one of the world’s most distinguished men of the 20^th Century could hope to attain, what about you and I? If you can’t be sure of being right 55% of the time, why should you tell other people they’re wrong?

This my brief opinion of the person Nigerians call I Too Know or ITK.

A FEW JOKE FOR YOU

BOY : May I hold your BOY : May I hold your hand?

GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.

GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!

BOY : You love me...

GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??

BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??

GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest.

BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple

GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever.

BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??

BOY : I love you and I could die for you!

GIRL : How soon??

BOY : I would go to the end of the world for you!

GIRL : Yes, but would you stay there??

SHARON : Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning

kiss??

TRACY : I did once. He'd forgotten to take the

cigarette out of his mouth.

MAN : You remind me of the sea.

WOMAN : Because I'm wild, romantic and exciting?

MAN : NO, because you make me sick.

WIFE : You tell a man something, it goes in one ear

and comes out of the other.

HUSBAND : You tell a woman something: It goes in both

ears and comes out of the mouth.

MARY : John says I'm pretty. Andrew says I'm ugly.What

do u think,

Peter?

PETER : A bit of both. I think you're pretty ugly.

) Girlfriend : "...And are you sure you love me and

no one else ?"

Boyfriend : "Dead Sure! I checked the whole list again

yesterday".

2) Teacher : "Which is more important to us, the sun

or the moon?"

Pupil : "The moon".

Teacher : "Why?"

Pupil : "The moon gives us light at night when we need

it but the sun gives us light only in the day time

when we don't need it".

3) Teacher : "What do you call a person who keeps on

talking when people are no longer interested?"

Pupil : "A teacher".

4) Waiter : "Would you like your coffee black?"

Customer : "What other colors do you have?"

5) My father is so old that when he was in school,

history was called current affairs.

6) Teacher : "Sam, you talk a lot !"

Sam : "It's a family tradition".

Teacher : "What do you mean?"

Sam : "Sir, my grandpa was a street hawker, my father

is a teacher".

Teacher : "What about your mother?"

Sam : "She's a woman".

7) Tom : "How should I convey the news to my father

that I've failed?"

David: "You just send a telegram: Result declared,

past year's performance repeated".

8) Teacher : "Now, children, if I saw a man beating a

donkey and stopped him, what virtue would I be

showing?"

Student : "Brotherly love".

9) Teacher : "Now, Sam, tell me frankly do you say

prayers before eating?"

Sam : "No sir, I don't have to, my mom is a good

cook".

10) Patient : "What are the chances of my recovering

doctor?"

Doctor : "One hundred percent. Medical records show

that nine out of ten people die of the disease you

have. Yours is the tenth case I've treated. The others

all died".

11) Teacher : " Can anybody give an example of

COINCIDENCE? "

One Student : "Sir, my Mother and Father got married

on the same day and at the same time."

12) Teacher : " George Washington not only chopped

down his father's Cherry tree, but also admitted doing it.

Now do you know why his father didn't punish him ?"

One Student: " Because George still had the axe in is hand."

hand?

i honestly apologize for my inability to post the article on friends. i will do that soon. i have not finished the article yet. you have my love. I'm out.

JOKE OF THE DAY + YOUR LIFE BEGAN BEFORE YOUR TURNED SIX YEARS OLD + SNAKE WINE

Hey dear,
Yesterday I began to write an article on friendship but couldn’t finish because I had issues I was dealing with. In the past few days, the true meaning of friendship began to stare at me in the face. So I decided to write what I think about friendship and I was glad when my Deana thought that topic is important and had wanted to tell me to write on it. Guess I am on course. I am putting final touches to the article and it will be my next post. Now I know what friendship is after mouth-gaping disappointment and I will share with you soon.

I am starting today’s post quite unusually. Check out this joke. Deana sent it to me this morning and I fell off my bed laughing. If this happens to me, I dunno what I would do. Lol. You will like it.

JOKE OF THE DAY

I was barely sitting down when I heard a voice from the other stall saying:
'Hi, how are you?'

I'm not the type to start a conversation in the restroom but I don't know what got into me,
So I answered, somewhat embarrassed,
'Doin' just fine!'

And the other person says:
'So what are you up to?'

What kind of question is that?
At that point, I'm thinking this is too bizarre, so I say:
'Uhhh, I'm like you, just traveling!'

At this point I am just trying to get out as fast as I can when I hear another question.
'Can I come over?'

Ok, this question is just too weird for me but I figured,
I could just be polite and end the conversation.
I tell them
'No........I'm a little busy right now!!!'

Then I hear the person say nervously...

'Listen, I'll have to call you back.
There's an idiot in the other stall who keeps answering all my questions!

YOUR LIFE BEGAN BEFORE YOU TURNED SIX YEARS
Some years ago, Luther Vandross (My favorite male singer), before his demise gave the world a song that eventually got an award for “All Time Best.” The title of the song in its simplicity carries an outstanding weight. “Dance with My Father” Got my attention the first time I listened to it on Morning Grill on FRCN/FM 96.1 Supreme. In the song, Luther expresses the amazing relationship he had with his father. Even when he offends mum, his father’s bosom was where he ran to for protection. Though it’s his mum who longs for a dance with her departed husband yet, it gives me a clue to the true personality of the father.

He is the loving and available father and husband. Little wonder he’s missed long after death snatched him from them. That kind of relationship with a family gives a proper perspective of life to children since that's their first lecture point. If the teachers are bad, children grow to hate life. This could be the reason why most humans are suffering today-a bad orientation about life at the most delicate moments of their lives. Little wonder that song made a hit because most people suffer from this. I believe that an adult’s perspective about life is largely determined by his relationship with parents.

Many ladies, if they had a caring father often desire to have a husband as sweet as their father. Countless surveys show that a lady will have a healthy relationship with the opposite sex if her father spent time with her as a growing girl. The reverse is the case for a girl who has an unavailable and over-critical dad. He creates natural fear or hatred within his daughter for the opposite sex. Matters are worse when she's sexually abused by the one she called dad or if he beats mum up. Would you blame her if she thinks that men are animals?

Ladies are not the only ones who suffer from this problem. A young man will grow up to respect ladies if mum listens and loves dad, when angry words between parents are not heard outside the bedroom. What happens if mummy insults dad consistently? The male child concludes that women are threats to the authority of the male gender and she must be dealt with to come under subjection. I hate to mention this but mothers who commit adultery are actually destroying the future families of their children because these male children would grow not to trust ladies.

In a recent survey I conducted, I actually trace many parents’ problems re-occuring in the lives of their children when married or in relationships. The answer is obvious. At age 6, the life of a person is set. His immediate environment forms his behaviors and characters. Anything added is a building on the foundation laid before he turned six years. It is therefore no more a surprise to see an adult male behaving like his dad or mum in a similar situation.

I hold my blame. Nevertheless, many parents have destroyed the beautiful life of their children should have had by foolish behaviours in their children’s growing days. In a child’s innocent years, the lesson he/she learns about life usually becomes a standard. To then isolate him/her from this normal proceeding of event created by parents becomes a difficult process for counselors - it takes only his own decision and time. Unfortunately, many people lived life from their parents’ angle without truly finding their true identity. Many of us are suffering from this but we can break loose from henceforth and live our lives.

Is it really possible to break loose from a lifestyle formed by our parents for many years? Yes a million times. If your parents have made you to see life negatively, you can choose to see it positively. If your parents never said good things about you as a baby and you have lived with a poor self-worth all the days of your life, you can take steps to reconstructing a healthier self-worth for yourself like I did. Have you been abused by parents in your early years? You can be useful again if you choose to. Have your parents abandoned you as a baby and opened you to people who took advantage of your vulnerability and introduced you to a lot of vain stuffs? It's a lie to think you are a mistake. You can make a difference too.

I concur that parents are our first teachers we meet on earth but thank God that the power to do what we want is in our hands. We cannot allow our lives to waste away because of the mistakes or carelessness of our parents. Now that we are adults, let's choose the direction of our lives. How do you achieve this?

1. Accept that your perspective is faulty
2. List the lifestyle you admire and wish to begin
3. Believe that you can achieve it
4. Make a decision to do it
5. Do it immediately if you have the opportunity
6. If you fall after trying to achieve this, get up and try again because we learn to walk by falling.

Although it has been proven by psychologist that adults are greatly influenced by their childhood conditioning, yet, God has given us the power to live above our past. So honey, if you don’t do anything about your habits now, you the blame is yours. Be wise.

SNAKE WINE? I WONT TAKE THIS FOR A MILLION DOLLAR!

Snake wine is an alcoholic beverage that includes a whole venomous snake in the bottle. It originated in Vietnam and can be found around Southeast Asia. The snakes, preferably venomous ones, are usually not preserved for their meat. They are preserved to have the snake poison dissolved in the liquor. However, because snake venom is protein-based, they are unfolded and therefore inactivated due to the influence of the denaturing effects of ethanol.

A large venomous snake can be placed into a glass jar of rice wine, often with many smaller snakes, turtles, insects, or birds, and left to steep for many months. The wine is drunk as a restorative in small shots or cups

Body fluids of snake are mixed into wine and consumed immediately in the form of a shot. Snake blood wine is prepared by slicing a snake along its belly and draining its blood into a mixing vat with rice wine or grain alcohol. Snake bile wine is done through a similar method by using the contents of the gall bladder. Snake meat, liver, and skin can be prepared to accompany the drinks

It’s another day to reach out and put smiles on someone’s face because that’s one of the reasons we are still alive, to make the world better. Have a splendid day. holla. I'M OUT!