WHEN SOMEONE HURT YOU + HOW CAN YOU LOVE AND HURT THE ONE YOU LOVE + EVEN CHILDREN KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOD SEND AND...

It’s nice to come here again. I want to spend so much time here from now on. For those on FB, I have taken a break just to spend time here. Several reasons were responsible but the most important one is that I now have time to do this with all my heart. From now henceforth, I will be updating everyday and if delayed I will not leave in straight 3 days. I am back, let’s groove together. Enjoy my post today.

WHEN SOMEONE HURTS YOU...

Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

'Today my best friend slapped me in the face.'

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

'Today my best friend saved my life.'

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, 'After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?'

The friend replied, 'When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.'

Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve your benefits in stone.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

How Can You Love and Hurt The One You Love?

My friend and brother from another mother, Iyke Okafor wrote this note on FB. I begged for his permission to share it with you guys. I hope you enjoy it.

Understand Domestic Violence first before you commit to it, calling it love!
Love doesn't call you bad names, misused you, confuse you, or sell you.
Love doesn't treat you like dirt, keeping you in denial, taking away your right to live.
Love doesn't make you feel like you are worthless, no one cares, no one wants you.
Love doesn't keep you down in the dumps, living a low life, hustling and bustling.

Love doesn't give you black eyes, and busted lips, choking you, kicking you, leaving you naked.
Love doesn't make you a slave, shelter you inside your home, never looking up, only down.
Love doesn't make you sick on the stomach, cause you to throw up, keeping you bowels loose.
Love doesn't take advantage of your body, making you have sex against your will, doing things that isn't right.

Love doesn't take all of your money, your paycheck, leaving you without.
Love doesn't leave you stranded on the roadside causing you to walk.
Love doesn't give away all that you have work for, leaving you homeless.
Love doesn't threaten your life, by a gun or knife, sometimes cutting your skin.

Love doesn't scratch you up, or bite on your skin.

Love doesn't bang you up with flying objects, or throw you against a wall or push you down.
Love doesn't behave unseemly, leaving you to be used in front of other men and women.
Love doesn't hurt you, make you feel abusive pain, it doesn't scar up your face and body.

I can tell you what Domestic Violence will do, it will do all of these things that is listed , very undermining, and excuses of ill will that "they", he or she can't get help, or "they", he or she are sick and need help. Domestic Violence will trap you, take your beauty inside out, and leave you bitter,
and lonely. Domestic Violence will give you back low-esteem, and no courage or will to live.

Domestic Violence is a Pledge of Mental Illness, and Anger, Loneliness, Abandonment, and Fear & Death to a Coffin in Your Grave. So many Sisters, and Brothers are dead and gone, don't allow this to be you, leave, and do it quickly, if it means leaving everything behind, leave it, change phone numbers also.

Don't tell anyone, only someone you can truly trust, saying you are leaving, or have left. I Desire and Pray for You to Live, My friend had to choose, she did it, and she is Alive today. Thank God and Amen!
Peace!

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I will be back soon. Love you guys. I am out.

IT'S RISKY TO LOVE AGAIN + 12 WAYS TO KNOW YOU LOVE SOMEONE + DOG FOR DASH

Okay honey, I decided to write this piece and update my blog in the wee hours of this morning as I lay on my bed thinking about the very many risk I have taken in my lifetime. Wow! They are innumerable. Believe me, I have dared what even spirits are scared to and I am hugely recompense by the failures and successes of such risks. But recently, I decided to face my biggest risk in the face-The risk to LOVE again. For me, that’s the greatest risk of all.

IT'S RISKY TO LOVE AGAIN
See, we take risk everyday; some we refer to as daily events of life but they are risks. Driving your car is a risky decision because someone drove his yesterday and perished in it. If you don’t have a car, walking is risky too. you could be killed while crossing the road. Investing your money in stocks, bonds, real estate is risky too. Those who have lost money in the crashing money market are better at telling this story. Women take risks to get pregnant and watch the babies grow. What if the children die at birth or as babies? In everything we do, from waking up in the morning, drinking a coup of tea, going to work and to sleeping at night, certain levels of risks are involved. Yet these risks are taken because they are required. I believe the moments some people realize that this usual daily endeavours are risky, they fear too. Hence, I have seen those who cannot travel on air or road because of the fear of accidents or those like me, who considered love as too risky. Now I think this is a funny standing because one bad dream doesn’t mean the end of dreaming. If you ask me, risk is life and as it is often said, it is risky not to take risk.

No matter the risk we take daily; serious or not, every one of us accommodates certain fears. The degree of those fears is determined by temperaments, personality and often, the childhood conditioning of those involved. For instance, I was raised in a house where risks are too risky and we have to be forced to settle for “cut your coat according to your size.” It took me like forever to break from this. Yes, I have made huge mistakes by taking some risks but I am better for it. What you fear is stronger than you and that means you are its slave until you decide to break loose. Little wonder those who are fearful rarely succeed.

Life is built on the foundation of venturing and contending. God, in the beginning ventured to create this world amidst difficult challenges as it is written,
“…and the world was without form

and void and darkness
was upon the face of the deep.

And God Said let there be light…”
God wasn’t afraid of the darkness and void – He ventured still. If you care to add, He took the risk and you and I are the product of that risk. I dare say, those who fear to take risks will never get what they want and will always be at the mercy of those who do. Look through your window. I will tell you what you stand to see - the wide gap between those who can take risk and those who cannot. Fear is the greatest woe of losers – the fear of “what if”. This alibi has kept my downtrodden for ages. The good news is that 92% of your fears will never happen. This is the result of a research:
* Roughly 40% of what we fear/worry about will never happen
* 30% of what we fear/worry about has already happen
* 23% of our fear/worry are about unfounded things that are still assumptions
* Totally, 92% of things that we fear/worry about will never on earth come to pass
* Only 8% is possible to occur and if it happens God has given us strength to handle it.

Why then do you fear to venture?

The most prominent fear of this age is the fear to venture because of failed or sad experiences in our pasts. This fear abounds in nearly every heart since we all have encountered disappointments in the past. This also was my major fear. I can dare look at the devil in the face or go into the proverbial 9ja evil forest (I dunno if it really exists) but I couldn’t risk falling in LOVE again. Those who know me understood how hard it was for me back in the days. Why should I fall in love when I stand the chance of heartbreak? Why travel through the rigors of that part when men are jerks and women are whores? Why give someone your love when you aint sure if it’s not gonna be trampled on? You feel me so? I believe I aint the only one in this line of argument. I am joined by millions I know. This singular thought pattern is making the world a city of losers and worse still, it gives us what we fear most – heartbreak and failed ideas. Those who fear failure have failed already because they will with their own hands bring their fears to past.

This also applies to people who have packed up businesses and ideas because it didn’t work the first time. In the making of incandescent lamp, Thomas Edison failed about 10,000 times and yet he said, “I didn’t fail 10, 000 time. I successfully eliminated 10,000 errors and combination that couldn’t work.” Success responds to persistence. Take the risk again and who knows, this could be the time that the tide will turn.

Are you among the millions scared of taking the risk to love or move ahead again? I have left you behind. Yes I have and I feel good about it. I still fear failure- a little but I won’t rob myself of joy because of the 92% fear that will never happen even if you dont believe in God like me. I am ready to take the bull by the horn and start living. Wanna join me?

DOG FOR DASH
My neighbor has a puppy he ' s giving away (FREE!). It ' s a Dachshund, it ' s house broken, and it ' s great with kids. He ' s giving it away because his wife says the dog ' stares ' at her when she is undressing , and that gives her the ' Heebie Jeebies ' . I think she is just weird! If you ' re interested, or know someone who is, let me know. Here ' s a picture of the dog.

You know where to get me if you want the dog. lol.

12 WAYS TO KNOW THAT YOU LOVE SOMEONE

TWELVE
You talk with him/her late at night and when you go to bed you still think of him/her.

ELEVEN:

You walk really slowly when you are with him/her.

TEN:

You don't feel Ok when he/she is far away.

NINE:

You smile when you hear his/her voice.

EIGHT:

When you look at him/her,you do not see other people around you. You see only him/her.

SIX:

He/She is everything you want to think.

FIVE:

You realise that you smile every time you look at him/her.

FOUR:

You would do anything to see him/her.

THREE:

While you have been reading this, there was a person in your mind all the time.

TWO:

You've been so busy thinking of that person that you didn't notice that number 7 is missing.

ONE:

You are going to check above if that's true and now you are silently laughing to yourself.

NOW MAKE A WISH! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT THE MOST......

You you guys later this week. i'm out.

Purest Love.